Four Steps

The Whiner

I.	Behavior
II.	Effects
III.	Action
IV.	Mistakes

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•	"I Can't"
•	"I Don't Care"
•	"Not My Fault"
•	Satisfied with Second Place

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Introduction
I.	Behavior
II.	Effects
III.	Action
	Primary Causes of Misbehavior
	Primary Needs Being Revealed
	Secondary Needs Being Revealed
	Methods, Procedures, and Techniques
IV.	Mistakes

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Secondary Needs Being Revealed

Status

The need:

• to be significant.
• to count, to be a "somebody."
• to be a vital part.
• to change the status quo.
• to have one's say.

Students who have these needs are easy to identify. They:

• are easily insulted.
• think people look down on them.
• want information before others get it.
• "go crazy" if decisions are made without consulting and/or considering them.
• make themselves appear superior by making others appear inferior.
• often put people down and attempt to put others in their place.
• like to label others, prejudge those they meet, and judge everyone critically.
• are joiners.
• take on more than they can achieve.
• are extremely concerned about personal appearance and what things they own.

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We are labeling behaviors, not children!

For the sake of convenience, we will describe behaviors with terms such as The Whiner or The Interrupter.

Never use such labels when talking to—or about—children!

Doing so could cause many new problems and seriously damage the parent-child relationship.

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Many behaviors--or changes in behavior--can signal an underlying emotional or mental health issue.

Don't hesitate to contact your child's school social worker, counselor, or doctor for any concerns you may have.

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