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Four Steps Model
Step 1: Identify the Behavior
Step 2: Understand the Effects
Step 3: Identify the Cause
Step 4: Avoid Mistakes

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The Agitator

Mistakes: What common discipline mistakes of parents may make the problem behavior worse?

  • Openly and publicly accusing their child of being an agitator.

  • Failing to see the real fear of being discovered that underlies the agitator's behavior.

  • Believing the agitator's actions are directed personally toward us and, therefore, reacting personally toward the agitator and his or her behavior.

  • Getting into an argument, causing division among family members.

  • Issuing punishments to all the children in the family, causing strong sibling reactions.

  • Jumping to the conclusion that the agitator is responsible for a current situation, based on past history.

  • Overreacting to all incidents of criticism and calling them agitation.

  • Making threats to stop the behavior and backing ourselves into a corner.

  • Feeling that "I must have the last word if I am to be the winner."

  • Becoming involved in a power play.

  • Openly confronting a child in front of others. This action can only cause serious difficulty for all.

  • Accusing a child too harshly or in the presence of friends.

  • Playing detective, and acting unfairly when we aren't able to pinpoint the culprit.

  • Attacking the followers rather than confronting the agitator.