Secondary Needs Being Revealed

Achievement

All people have a need to succeed. They also have a need to be recognized for their success. The truth is that a great deal of misbehavior results because some kids can’t win in school or at home—and the only way they can get any recognition is through failure.

As parents, we must be aware that success without recognition weakens motivation. Helping kids win and recognizing their achievements are two of the most important things we do.

Remember, any improvement, no matter how small, is a positive, constructive achievement. Likewise, whenever children make an effort and the parent doesn’t recognize the effort, they soon realize that they will get the same “reward” for doing nothing—so why bother to try?

Be aware of your child’s victories and celebrate them!

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