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The Influencer

I.	Behavior
II.	Effects
III.	Action
IV.	Mistakes

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Introduction
I.	Behavior
II.	Effects
III.	Action
	Primary Causes of Misbehavior
	Primary Needs Being Revealed
	Secondary Needs Being Revealed
	Methods, Procedures, and Techniques
IV.	Mistakes

Behavior Information

The Influencer

Behavior: How exactly is my child behaving?

1. Often a popular child and a natural leader. Has the power to influence.
   
   
2. Pits people against people. Will get children fighting with each other or will pit children against parents.
   
   
3. Usually very capable and intelligent.
   
   
4. Delights in "trapping" parents or making schoolwork seem insignificant.
   
   
5. Almost always intimidates a specific group of children.
   
   
6. Causes problems in direct proportion to the number of his or her followers.
   
   
7. May even make rules that conflict with classroom or house rules.
   
   
8. Laughs at what parents say, ridicules what parents do, and degrades the importance of what parents consider to be priorities. And siblings and friends listen.
   
   
9. Seldom disrupts directly. Rather, gets his or her followers to do it.
   
   
10. At school, encourages others to speak out, complain about an assignment, or refuse to comply with teacher requests.
    
    
11. Frequently, is not at the scene of the disturbance he or she promotes. If at the scene, acts like an innocent bystander.
    
    

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We are labeling behaviors, not children!

For the sake of convenience, we will describe behaviors with terms such as The Whiner or The Interrupter.

Never use such labels when talking to—or about—children!

Doing so could cause many new problems and seriously damage the parent-child relationship.

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