Four Steps

The Complainer

I.	Behavior
II.	Effects
III.	Action
IV.	Mistakes

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Introduction
I.	Behavior
II.	Effects
III.	Action
	Primary Causes of Misbehavior
	Primary Needs Being Revealed
	Secondary Needs Being Revealed
	Methods, Procedures, and Techniques
IV.	Mistakes

Behavior Information

The Complainer

Effects: How does my child’s behavior affect other people at home and in school?

1. Parents, teachers, and peers are disrupted and annoyed by behavior.
   
   
2. Parent fairness is undermined.
   
   
3. Morale in the home is affected.
   
   
4. Parents are irritated and angered.
   
   
5. Time is wasted.
   
   
6. Conflict between parents and the child's teachers may arise.
   
   
7. If the behavior of the complainer is successful, others are encouraged to imitate the behavior.
   
   
8. Peers and siblings often feel annoyed at the behavior of the complainer because they see through to the selfishness and deception inherent in his or her complaining.
   
   

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Please Note

We are labeling behaviors, not children!

For the sake of convenience, we will describe behaviors with terms such as The Whiner or The Interrupter.

Never use such labels when talking to—or about—children!

Doing so could cause many new problems and seriously damage the parent-child relationship.

Seek professional assistance!

Many behaviors--or changes in behavior--can signal an underlying emotional or mental health issue.

Don't hesitate to contact your child's school social worker, counselor, or doctor for any concerns you may have.

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